Our attitude toward life determines life’s attitude towards us.— John Mitchell
A popular teaching states that your altitude depends on your attitude, and it is true. Attitude would require you to start, stop, or change the directions of your thinking, feeling and common actions. It will, for example, require you to cultivate a saving, spending, giving, and an investment attitude. There are additional attitudes that you need to adopt for successful living. Here are few to start you with.
Study these attitudes and make them your growth fertilizer.
- I am always learning something new to improve my social and economic life.
Welcome to life. Life is a classroom of God revealing something new to you each moment. You do not see yourself twice in a mirror. You see a different image of yourself each moment you look at yourself in a mirror. You are on a journey of self-discovery as well as discovering the mystery of life. Give yourself the opportunity to learn something new, for life is a mystery of infinite discovery.
Unsuccessful people tend to stick to doing things the way they are used to. Successful people seek ways by which things could be improved. Unsuccessful people always say ‘this is how we met it or this is how it’s always done’. Successful people say, ‘in what other way can it be done?’ If the telephones inventors had not gone on to improve it, we would not have had cellular phones today.
It is ideal to enter into a relationship with an open mind, ready to learn. It takes learning rather than goodness to make marriage work. Marriage is a learning process and you are there to learn from each other.
- I am punctual.
Lateness for programs and appointments will make you lose out on life. When you are late for a program or for classes, you will miss what you are to learn or acquire in the period you were not present. Lateness will make people lose trust in you, resulting in the loss friends, business and money.
Make a conscious effort to be on time for appointments and especially for programs you design for yourself. Time is money.
- I have a positive image of myself.
How do you see yourself? We often tend see ourselves the way people see us; and that is certainly dangerous. You are more than what the world thinks about you and you must not fit into the jacket of other people’s expectations.
One useful way to see who you truly are is to list the ideas your friends, parents and family members have about you and comparing it to how God sees you. For example, you may in silence ask yourself, ‘is this how God sees me?’ ‘In what way does God see me higher and nobler than this?’ Capture God’s idea about you and not how the world sees you. Sometimes, the way the world sees you could be positive; however, God’s idea about you is nobler – seek it.
Do not bother yourself about whether people believe in you or not. God believes in you and God and you form the majority.
- I am consciously grateful for at least 20 things each in my past, present and the future.
Of all practices for success, gratitude is a very important one. Gratitude is the highest form of prayer and spiritual practice.
You express gratitude when you see the good in yourself or in another person and are thankful for it. Gratitude focuses you on the good that happened, is happening, or the good that is emerging from challenges.
You do not only express gratitude when you received something good from life but also when you have surmounted challenges. Be grateful for the mistakes you have made in life. The moment of realizing that it was a mistake was a moment of learning and that calls for gratitude
Focusing on the good things in life opens you up for more of the same. Look into the past, especially the last year and identify 20 good things you are grateful to life for. Look around you now, and identify 20 good things you are grateful to life for. Do the same for the future. Thank God for positive things which are yet to come.
Read the list to yourself daily. This lifts you into positive consciousness and this positive energy energizes, rejuvenates, heals, restores, and fills you with ideas and opens your creative mind. What else do you need? Practice reading this to yourself every day. This practice of gratitude frees you from past and present painful memories and from future anxieties that wastes your energy.
- I am health conscious in my diet and exercise regularly.
You sometimes eat too much carbohydrate – you need just a ladle of rice to survive each day. Be conscious of your diet and exercise regularly. A week is made up of 178 hours. All you need is 20 minutes of vigorous exercise thrice a week – that adds up to just 1 hour. Give yourself an hour of vigorous exercise a week and it will give you 178 hours a week to enjoy – this is common sense so make it your common practice. Have a health plan that include, right diet, exercise, rest, and recreation including holidays.
- I am consciously passionate and joyful about life
Find something to be joyful about. Thank God for all the beauty around that you enjoy. Make a conscious effort to be joyful and passionate about yourself and your dreams always. Conspire with yourself to be and remain joyful.
You have every cause to be joyful; the wind blows freely to the tip of your nostrils, the sun continues to shine no matter how you are feeling. Life is spinning the planet at 1,000 mph for you to get night and day. If it is sunny all the time everything will dry up and die. Life will similarly perish if it were dark night all the time. Without night and day you will perish. To enjoy the seasons, the earth is speeding round the sun at 67,000 miles per hour. Even if you have lost your mother realize what it takes for life to spin the earth for you and rejoice.
Part of the joy of living is making time to enjoy some of the money you have and with others.
- I have deep spiritual respect for everyone
Make a conscious effort to have deep spiritual respect for everyone. In doing this, the good and positive idea in them will support you and lead you to success.
You need to have respect for the cleaner or the laborer for he is also a child of God. See all people as God sees them and not as the world sees them. A person may not have unfolded to your level but the potential is still in him. Respect the Christ that each person is.
- I claim my space but do not occupy other people’s space or stand in their way.
You have rights as a child of God but that does not mean you should infringe on the rights of others. You need to appreciate what you are as a child of God and appreciate that in others as well.
Do not hesitate to claim what is rightfully yours; claim your space and allow others theirs. Do not block other people’s progress; give people their spaces. Claim your freedom while allowing others to be free too. Rejoice in the successes of others.
- I am always on purpose.
If you are not on purpose, you are always blown about by the wind. Being on purpose involves knowing what you are about, where you are going, why you are going and how you are getting there. There are three things in life: Purpose, Direction and Destiny. Not having a purpose in life makes you stagnant and like stagnant water, you lose all the fish in you.
Your destiny shows where you are going; purpose gives you the reason and the ability to start going and direction shows you the easiest and safest way to get there. Cultivate the habit of being on purpose – create a time for learning and for having fun.
- I enjoy my body, mind and feeling.
When was the last time you really enjoyed your eyes? Enjoying your body is a way of energizing it. Be still and enjoy your heartbeat. Stand in front of a mirror and enjoy your body’s magnificence. Enjoy your feelings; there is nothing wrong with those feelings of arousal. Give them divine names and virtues. You may affirm “this feeling I am having is God’s wisdom” and that will draw wisdom from the universe to you. When you are married, make time to really love and enjoy your husband or wife.
Many couples after 20 years cannot say they have really enjoyed their partner’s mind, feeling and body wholly for a full day. Take time to wash your skin and enjoy it. Make time for you; be important for you!
- I see obstacles as opportunities to express my genius and to expand my territories of experience. It’s a large me in a large universe.
It is a large you in a large universe. Obstacles are just opportunities for your expansion. Great men are not necessarily those who have made it or succeeded in everything. Great men are those who turned their failures and misfortunes into success stories.
No one succeeds every time so anyone who wants to succeed every time will be a failure because the moment they meet any setbacks, they would be overwhelmed by them. Instead, have the attitude of ‘I am here to break through life and to show my God glory.’ Any obstacle you encounter, therefore, is not about you. It is about something wonderful in you seeking to express.
When someone hates you, it is an opportunity for you to shine and express love. Failing an exam does not make you a failure – you failed because you did not learn enough. Life is a vast infinite subject and failing one subject does not make you a failure. The failure is just to tell you to re-prepare or re-study.
People have talents, which are either academic or technical. Identify what you love doing naturally and make that your career. Never stop yourself if you fail; move on, expand yourself in other areas of life; expand your territory of experience. Be known for something. It takes an unwavering will to make that happen. Study your environment to find out how you can benefit from it and make others benefit from what you are.
- I complete what I have started.
Make an effort to complete whatever project you undertake. The lives of many people are full of uncompleted assignments and this pulls them down into failure. Cultivate the habit of knowing what signifies the end of a project. Have a closing remark that says, ‘it is done and well done.’ If you are to clean or sweep, do it well and tell yourself it is well done.
The closing remark also builds in you the sense of completing things and gives you a sense of achieving more. For example, when you complete a chapter in math and tell yourself, ‘Yes I understand this well,’ your mind agrees with you and rounds up the subject to a full understanding. The next time you come to it, something inside you knows that you know it already done. This makes learning easier and more fun. When you do not give yourself closing remarks, it seems like you have never started anything at all. Even in conversation, ask yourself, ‘have I completed this conversation’ and make sure it is completed. ‘… until my good is better and my better best.’
- I think problems through to their solution
Most people procrastinate in thinking problems through to solution. The problem with people is that most of them do not know what their problems are. To see the solution, identify the problem and write it down following this procedure:
- “The problem I am having is ….
- Difficulties I am having to its solution is/are …
- “What solution(s) could there be?”
Practicing this will soon cause solutions to flow quickly. Success means being able to arrive at solutions. Every product you have bought and will ever buy is a form of solution provided by someone. As a solution to the problem of communication, telephones were created, etc. You will succeed when people begin to pay for the solutions you provide. Every service you give is a solution you are providing. This makes you solution oriented. Many people tend to dwell more on their problems rather than on solutions and the consequence is failure.
- I make time to recognize, celebrate and enjoy what I have.
Have you made time to appreciate all that you possess? There are instances where people have visited pastors, spiritualist and been told that they have holes in their palms so that any money they acquire simply goes to waste. This is has some psychological validation because anything you have, if not appreciated, celebrated and acknowledged goes to waste. On the other hand whatever you recognize and celebrate enables you to continue to acquire similar blessings because it cultivates in you the spirit of having. People tend to focus more on the things they do not have than on the things they have. As a result, they start losing what they have because they do not value or appreciate it. Life therefore does not see you worthy of getting more. Make time to recognize, celebrate and enjoy what you have. Somebody will work hard to make money to buy a brand of rich, quality tea and yet never quite taste it because while drinking it, he or she may be busily reading some slanderous news which takes his or her senses away from the tea. This is so with many things we have. When you are in the spirit of enjoying life, life gives you more to enjoy. “Unto him who has, more is given,” says the bible. You need to cultivate the spirit of having by recognizing and appreciating what you have. Such an attitude is also a cure for envy that reduces your value.
Consciously practice smile and laughter.
- I am truthful, trustworthy and dependable.
When given any work, can it be said that once you are in charge the work will be done completely? Can people depend on you to get tasks accomplished so that they won’t need to worry once it’s been delegated to you? If so then you are trustworthy and dependable. When you are in the wrong, can you comfortably apologize for the wrong? A simple statement like “sorry, I did not listen properly, or pardon me for getting it wrong” can show how truthful and trustworthy you are. Life can confide greater riches in your care when you have been proven to be truthful, dependable and trustworthy. You get paid for expressing these virtues.
That is to Live in integrity.
- I keep my word; however, I change my mind easily when it is for a higher good.
The teaching here is in keeping your word. Keeping your word means you are truthful and not easily swayed when you agree to a thing. Some consider it weakness to change your mind. That is not true because you are changing your mind every second. It is what you are changing your mind from and to which is important. Change your mind if it is for a higher good. If you realize that changing your mind will produce better results, go ahead and do it.
- I invest in books and workshops that enhance the quality of my life.
The wisdom here is exactly as it is written. Pledge a portion of your earnings to acquire books – it is the source of wisdom and knowledge with which you advance your life. Make time to participate in life-enhancing workshops.
- I give myself the permission to dream big; I dream of the impossible and ask myself, why not?
There are no limitations on what you can achieve. The biggest factories are not yet built. When you dream it, you can make it. There is no reason to settle for less. Few years ago, it was impossible to conceive that we can fly or have cellular phones. Challenge yourself to go beyond statistics and known phenomena. By all that was known, a feather falls down by the force of gravity, so it was inconceivable to dream of an aircraft. Today, it is a reality because someone dared to dream and ask how to make it possible.
- I learn to listen to myself and to my intuition more than others.
Of course you can take pieces of advice here and there. Good advices are confusing; a good advice is useful. However, when in trouble and you are bombarded with advices from everyone around you, even if they are good ones, they get you confused. Over time you lose your ability to know things and make decisions for yourself. Make friends of people you want to listen to and whose impartiality and wisdom you can trust.
- I Permit myself to teach and be taught.
You do not get depleted of knowledge when you teach others. On the contrary you gain knowledge from teaching. When you teach your mates the subject sticks better in your mind. This does not mean that you must waste your time teaching everyone. Offer help when you have the time to do so. One quality necessary for marriage is to make yourself available to learn. We come from different backgrounds, so no matter how good you are, you need to learn new ways from your partner. For example, no matter how well a person is groomed, the way the person’s mother prepares okra stew is different from the way your mother does it. There is the need to learn new habits so be willing to learn and be willing to also impart. Some people keep their wisdom to themselves until they die. Unless the wisdom blesses somebody else it is useless. All you know is the gift of God to enhance the planet.
- I ask questions about things I don’t understand.
If you see a procession in white and one of them is in black, if you cannot go and ask why, then keep your mouth shut and for goodness sake don’t be silly. The way to knowledge is to ask questions. Asking question is not a sign of ignorance; it speaks of an enquiring heart that will excel. Get to understand the why of everything.
Many people condemn or ridicule whatever they do not understand, thinking that in so doing they are demonstrating supremacy. They are actually demonstrating latent idiocy. Probe with an open mind to know and increase in knowledge. Do not assume that you know it all; no one does; and, even the philosopher leaves the coat cutting to the tailor.
- I learn to be alone.
Occasionally move a little bit away from the crowd and distraction and be with yourself to discover and rediscover your dreams and goals. This enables you to tune in to spirit or any other Thought Systems to help you grow and discover new things.
- I accept responsibility for my errors and I sincerely apologize, and when necessary and possible, I make amends.
When own up to your mistakes and apologize for them it is a demonstration of strength and maturity. It earns you respect and trust. It makes people believe that you are honest and thus want to relate with you. Use the three magical words, “I am sorry’ with meaning. Don’t say it between your teeth; people can feel it when you do not mean your apology. Go an extra mile to make amends when you can.
By taking responsibility for your mistakes you are able to handle and learn from them. Always look for what you are responsible for. Never shift blame to exonerate yourself. Doing so weakens you and stops you from gaining the knowledge from that experience.
- I focus on the good and the divine or the possible good and the divine in myself and in all of life.
When you see the good and the divine or the possible good in yourself you will truly love yourself and grow your self-image. When you see the good and the divine or the possible good and the divine in others you will truly love them and support their highest good. This is what will grow a world of peace and beauty we have all desired.
Doing the above is what Jesus prescribed when he taught that we should love God with all our hearts, and our neighbors as ourselves. Jesus was teaching us how to create and experience heaven here on earth.
People who do not love themselves are not conscious of the love of God that reaches to them from all people around them. When someone says that people do not like them, they are most times saying that they do not love themselves.
No matter what evil may appear to be happening, something good will emerge. If Joseph’s (of the Bible) brothers have not sold him into slavery, he would not have interpreted the King’s dream to save the world from famine. Through that he also became a great lord and ruler over his brothers. If you meet unfortunate conditions, always be still and ask yourself, ‘what good is seeking to come out of this?’
- I pray regularly.
Anyone who prays only when in need will always be in need so that he or she prays.
Anyone who prays for miracles will always be in pain, misery and suffering to warrant a miracle. This is why Jesus described those who are always seeking miracle as wicked and perverse generation.
Jesus taught that ‘you are the light of the world, a city that is set on an hill.’ Pray not to call God to do it for you; rather, pray to tweak up your light and call for greater brightness. God is not a messenger to go on errands or do assignments for you. Therefore, do not ask God to do for you what He has given you power to do. Pray, calling forth a greater demonstration of the love, beauty and intelligence of God that you are.
- I pay my bills promptly and with gratitude; and I pay for what I buy promptly in full and with gratitude
It is part of the prosperity consciousness to give out money when you are obliged to. Paying promptly carries the idea that I know my needs will be met when they need to be so you are not releasing money begrudgingly. As a corollary to this, do not bite more than you can chew. Do not for instance, install an air-conditioning unit in your house when you know your monthly budget cannot sustain it. Go for an electric fan instead.